HospitalTransition of a loved one is never an easy experience. Here are 7 Ways to help your loved in the final stages of life.

I recently went back home to a loved one who was in the stage IV of lung cancer. To see someone who was once so strong become so physically small and weak was nothing short of heartbreaking. It’s no secret that cancer is a beast. It’s a merciless villain that can destroy the youngest, strongest & healthiest person. We seem to be unable to find all of the causes and tend to question the reasons behind why some fall victim to the deadly disease.

According to the American Cancer Society, it is estimated that over 589,000 (approx. 1,600 per day) deaths as a result of cancer in 2015. Currently, Cancer is the 2nd leading cause of death in the United States (and it’s expected to rise to number one within the next few years). These are some startling facts.

There are many who “beat” cancer. For them, this is an accomplishment that truly deserves bragging rights because they endured so much to become cancer free. However, for those who have succumbed to cancer, it does not mean they are any less deserving of a cure, or that they didn’t fight enough. It is sometimes just the life path of soul. As hard as it may be for us to understand, there are just some experiences that are beyond our comprehension, yet it’s never too late to express your love.

When you see someone in the last days of his or her life, you are looking at the face of death. However, you are also looking at the face of life. Their spirit journey is beginning. Here are 7 Ways to express your love when one is transitioning to the spirit world.

Although, there is never a guarantee, it is with great love these tip are offered to you.


  1. TOUCH Them. By touching your loved one, you are sending them energetic vibrations that they can feel. Yes, they may be fragile, but sharing your touch with them will reach senses beyond their hearing, and seeing. Feeling is one of our most intuitive senses. Our “gut” is always on and signaling to our heart and brain. By touching a loved one, you are reminding them that they are loved to the deepest core. They may not be able to process thoughts as quickly and easily in these final days so the touch is something they don’t have to absorb. They can just “feel” your love.
  1. LOOK at them. If your loved one is still in an awake state, make eye contact. Look at them with love and without pity and sorrow. Tell them telepathically that they are loved. Show them in your eyes, how their spirit has touched your life. Reminding them of how they impacted others will help show them that they had purpose. Their existence in the physical realm made a difference.
  1. TALK to them. Let them hear your voice. You may think your loved one cannot hear you if they’ve fallen into a coma or are in the final moments of transition. Trust that they can still hear you. There are so many times that spirit gives me the messages of their loves ones as validation that they heard them in the “final” moments. In the coma state, your loved one may be experiencing both realms. The physical realm and the spiritual realm. Even if they are spending time in the spirit realm, their spirit can still absorb your words. So speak them freely. Allow yourself to express the love you have. Again, having a person know they are loved will help them transition with a sense of peace.
  1. GIVE them permission. Let them know that it’s OK for them transition. Give your permission. Many times a loved one is holding on for those left behind in the physical realm. Let them know that you are OK. Thank them for caring and always being there for you, but now it’s time for them to take the next step of their journey. To see their other loved ones (and pets) in spirit. To return to the universal love of spirit.
  1. ENCOURAGE the light. In the final moments, tell them how beautiful the light is, Tell them to see the light and that it’s home for them. To feel the warmth and love of the light. This will gently guide them to the direction of the spirit realm and release the physical.
  1. BE PRESENT. Be present in their presence. It’s hard to see a loved in any discomfort, but try not to pull away emotionally to numb the feelings. By staying present, your soul will be connecting with their soul. It’s just reassuring to one in transition that they are not alone. So share your soul with them.
  1. Remain CALM. During the last moments of a your loved ones physical existence, you may see them experiencing difficulty in breathing. They may be making noise or unusual facial expressions. Try to remain calm. This is the moment you can give them the most love possible because you can be gentle, guiding and peaceful. Think of it as the birth of a newborn emerging from the womb or a baby waking from a nap. In which they we want to make the transition from the one stage to the next as calm as possible without jarring their energy field. This may be the most challenging moment for you personally, but it will also be the one in which you can give the most love because you are celebrating their “graduation” with them.

If you are not present when your loved one transitions, please trust that it wasn’t supposed to be a part of either of your paths. Release any regret or guilt that you may be holding on to as it all within divine timing and experience.

Watching a loved one transition is not easy, but remembering that they are returning home may bring you some comfort. We are born from spirit and enter into the physical realm. Upon completion of our physical experience we return to our spiritual home. Your loved ones live on. They release their physical body, but the true essence of everything they encompass will stay with them and with you.

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Colby is a master spiritual teacher of the LWISSD and a certified and tested member of Best American Psychics by Shay Parker. Colby currently resides in Los Angeles, CA where she serves as a professional psychic, medium, teacher author and public speaker. Colby is not a doctor or medical intuitive. In no way is this article intended to be taken as a diagnosis or medical treatment. Always seek the guidance of a professional for medical treatment.  CLICK HERE to book a session with Colby.