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A new year is like hitting the reset button.
As the year is coming to a close and a new one begins, now is the perfect time to take stock of your life. Take a look at where you fall on your happiness scale. Are you feeling absolute joy or merely content? Do you find yourself settling?
Now is the perfect time to set your boundaries. Start 2018 fresh by letting go of what no longer serves you and step into the life you've always imagined possible.
Your happy life is just 7 tips away.
Here are 7 tips to setting boundaries in 2018 to manifest your happy life.
- Reflection: Review your relationships this past year.
Ask yourself the following questions:
- Are you feeling fulfilled in them?
- Do you sometimes feel that you’re an easy “doormat”?
- Do you struggle with letting go of toxic people?
- Are you surrounded by energy vampires?
Look at whether or not someone is bringing joy to your life or are they adding stress? We can find ourselves staying in situations long after we know it’s over even when we know it’s not healthy. Why? Why do we stay? There are many reasons which may range from feeling they can change to being afraid of being alone.
Set boundaries that works for YOU!
Listening to the advice of a friend or family member can lead you in the wrong direction because they will be working from their perception. It’s important for you to work from your personal perception. Take the time to connect with yourself to see what FEELS right to you. If it doesn’t FEEL right, that is a boundary. If it DOES feel right, then you know you want to work in that direction. Be your own compass.
- Establish your Boundaries: List them out in detail.
Start with creating a list. Look at all of the areas in your life. Love, Relationships, Career, Finance, and Health. Ask yourself in each of those areas do you feel fulfilled? Do you feel a sense of joy? If the answer is NO, then focus on that area. Write down what you are feeling. Then write down what you do want. Find a way to simply phrase what you desire. That is part of your list!
- Uphold your Boundaries: Stand strong for what you want.
Having the courage to set boundaries and the discipline to uphold them can be difficult. It’s important to implement boundaries into your life as it tells the universe what you feel is your “self-worth”. In order to attract from the universe what you truly want, you must be specific in telling the universe what that is for you. So many people leave it up to the universe to guess for them! Do you part of the work and allow the energy of that to respond to you.
Are you the type of person who is constantly giving someone 2nd chances, or bending the rules or pretending something didn’t happen? Does that make you feel good? Do you feel loved?
If yes, then keep doing it! If the answer is no, then release the need to keep giving. By being honest with yourself, you can change the types of people, situations and energy your draw in. The more you can honor your boundaries, the more joy you can bring into your life.
- Apply Boundaries to all areas: Love, Work, Health, Money, Relationships.
Boundaries can apply to any aspect of your life. If you’re feeling underappreciated at work look at what you’re volunteering to take on. Do you say NO to new projects or do you continuously take on extra tasks because you’re afraid of upsetting the boss?
Using the word NO can become your new best friend. There’s nothing wrong with telling someone that it doesn’t feel good to you. If that upsets them or you lose friends, trust that it’s the universe’s way of guiding you to what is in the best interest of your highest self. Be sure to look at the areas of your life. Let’s say it’s Love. You’ve been seeing someone, yet it’s not going where you want it to go. You say to yourself “oh, they just need more time” or “they’ll come around”. The co-dependent might say “if I just love them enough”. But stop for a moment, ask yourself this. How do YOU feel? Are YOU ready for a commitment? Yet this person isn’t responding? Then you have to tell the universe, that you want a commitment.
The universe will either respond with having him have a change of heart or removing this person from your life. Either way, the universe will set you up to bring what you’re asking from it.
- Be Gentle with Yourself: It’s a learning process
If you’re a people pleaser or nurturer then being firm in your boundaries can be especially difficult for you. You have a tendency and desire to appease everybody. You may put your spouse and children first and then there’s nothing left in the tank for you. Time to change that. And know, that you may not get it right the first time. You may find yourself slipping into old habits even AFTER you set those boundaries, but be gentle. It takes time to recondition yourself.
- Listen to your Inner Compass: Surrender and let it guide you!
Once you focus on listening to your inner compass and following that, you will find a sense of authenticity because you will no longer have to “fake” it in a conversation or relationship. The people you start to attract into your life will naturally have the same core belief system. As we change, our circle changes as well. As a friend once said “maybe you just haven’t found your tribe yet”. So put yourself out there! Your true and authentic self, and then see who is in your tribe.
- Be Honest: Honesty really is the best policy!
Being honest with ourselves and others can sometimes be a challenge. We don’t want to upset someone, or hurt their feelings so we decide to keep quiet. By being silent you are doing a disservice to yourself. You are not being authentic to YOU.
It’s time to be honest and those who are meant to be in your life will still be there with you. Listening to your inner self and setting boundaries can be risky. If you honor your boundaries, you will create change so you must be open and ready for change in order to create your perfect life. There may be some bumpy roads as people don’t like change. You may even find yourself separating from friends, jobs and relationships. However, if you are being honest in your quest, you will find a sense of peace, joy and manifest that happy life that is PERFECTLY you!
Colby is a certified master spiritual teacher of the LWISSD (Lisa Williams International School of Spiritual Development) and author of the best selling book Leap of Faith: How To Build Your Spiritual Business. Colby is a professional Psychic Medium and owner of the Colby Rebel Spirit Center in Los Angeles, CA. You can catch Colby weekly on her show LIVE with Colby Rebel on UBNradio.com where she takes callers on air. Subscribe to her YouTube channel for the latest inspirational videos.
5 Essential Tips to Attaining Success in 2018
Do you set resolutions every year to only arrive at the end of the year still in the same position and feeling stuck? You were so diligent with your list. You were clear on your goals and stated your positive affirmations daily. You worked so hard so what happened?
Don't worry, you are NOT alone! This scenario is more common than you may think; we go into the New Year with enthusiasm and hope only to find ourselves deflated by mid-year. It's not the goals, affirmations or your list that is at fault. It's simply creating a better plan. In order to reach attainable goals it’s imperative to be specific about what you truly want to manifest. When setting intentions we tend to be vague or we ask for things that we truly don’t want, but somehow feels it’s what we “should” desire so we jot it down on our list of resolutions.
Here are 5 essential tips to attaining success in 2018.
TIP #1: CREATE SPECIFIC INTENTIONS:
In order to do this, you must sit with your soul to discover what it truly wants. A great exercise that helps is automatic writing. You just need about 15 minutes, a pad, writing utensil and a bit of peace. Sit in a comfortable space and take a few slow breaths in through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Ask your higher self to reveal to you what it needs to feel fulfilled in the various areas of your life.
- Do you need more play time?
- A new career?
- A stronger relationship?
- A change in living location?
- Financial security?
- Creative hobbies?
There are no “right” answers; there are only answers that are “right” within you. Start writing and release logic. Work from your intuition and higher self to reveal the answers. Write for 15 minutes. When the time is up go back over what you have written. You may surprise yourself at the answers since you’ve probably covered them through the years with the thoughts and feelings of what others thought you should desire. This writing will serve as the foundation of your intentions.
TIP #2: CATEGORIZE YOUR LIST:
Break down what you have written in your intentions and create a list by placing each intention into the various areas of your life.
Family | Love | Finance | Career | Legal |Health
Dividing them up into the various groups provides clarity.
In each area your life, you should now have an intention, from that intention, ask yourself “What steps do I need to take to achieve this goal?” This may feel overwhelming at first because you are projecting into the future. Putting yourself in the future can create anxiety and stress because you are carrying the doubts you currently hold. Release any stress connected to whether or not you believe it’s achievable, just write the goal and the steps. This will help you remain present so that you don’t create negative self-talk. If you tend to be a more visual person then put this up on a poster board or create a vision board with images as it will serve as a constant reminder of these intentions.
TIP #3: FOCUS!
Now the fun begins! Each day focus on one area on your board. Within that area, look as the steps you wrote. From those steps ask yourself, what is the very next move I can make in the direction of that intention? We sometimes set such unrealistic time frames related to our goals that we can give up on them before we even give them time to manifest. So if your goal was to lose two clothing sizes for the New Year, you can’t create a step that says “losing weight”. The steps must be more specific. Are you trying to live healthier? Are you having health issues? List steps that are smaller, bite-sized and realistic. Start with committing to a healthier breakfast in the morning. Consider joining a movement class that requires you to be accountable. Finding what works for you is essential to success. If you are not a morning person, avoid an exercise routine that requires you show up for class early!
TIP #4: BE RESPONSIBLE.
Remembering that you are responsible for your own success or failure with the intentions will help keep you on course. Self-discipline is a key factor in staying on track. When you are feeling a bit unsure or disheartened then reach out for support.
Share your intentions with a friend, family member or trusted colleague so that they can help with reassurance when in need, but just remember that only you can create the change you seek.
Check in with yourself at the end of the week and give yourself a report card. Did you do well in all areas? Did you fall behind in some? Understanding where you are in the process will guide you to the next week. If you have a bad week, don’t give up. Be loving to yourself and know that setbacks are natural, not permanent. If you are discovering that you are avoiding the intentions in one area of your life, ask yourself, “am I blocked in this area” or “am I holding onto a limiting belief system”?
When you ask the questions, your soul will know the answers. If you receive a yes, then work past your fears and stay on target with your goals. Over time and with persistent dedication you will build confidence and remove the blocks that are holding you back from your true potential.
TIP #5: STAY PRESENT.
Keeping your goals detailed and specific to your soul will put you on the path to happiness and fulfillment. Staying present with the goals will help avoid anxiety. With each intention, just ask yourself “what is my very next step?” that is the direction you want to keep moving towards. By taking little steps consistently, you will achieve your goals and create a more balanced and successful life in the process!
Integrating these 5 tips is your sure-fire plan for attaining your goals and manifesting success in the New Year!
Remember, we can all get off track now and again. Don't punish or pity yourself when this happens. Go back to your plan and pick yourself up and move forward and use your goals as motivation to keep you moving forward!
Colby is a certified master spiritual teacher of the LWISSD (Lisa Williams International School of Spiritual Development) and author of the best selling book Leap of Faith: How To Build Your Spiritual Business. Colby is a professional Psychic Medium and owner of the Colby Rebel Spirit Center in Los Angeles, CA. You can catch Colby weekly on her show LIVE with Colby Rebel on UBNradio.com where she takes callers on air. Subscribe to her YouTube channel for the latest inspirational videos.
Spirit will always honor your most authentic self.